Free relationship advice
First Date Checklist:
First dates sometimes offer a range of emotion from
thrilling to terrifying! Here are some tips that will
help things go smoothly:
#1: Be on time! Timeliness is expected, but being late
(or too early) makes a bad impression. If you can't
help being a little late, call before the expected arrival
time.
#2: (for men) Do a "personal check" before
the date - are your fingernails clean, hair neat, clothes
ironed, shoes polished, and any odors under control
(including breath)? Women look at these things and are
aware if they aren't in check. You should be too!
#3: (for women) Don't overdo the make-up or perfume!
In most cases, a little goes a long way.
#4: Don't go to the movies, the theatre, or a concert
on your first date - you want to be able to talk and
get to know this person.
#5: Don't "pull out all the stops" - keep
it simple. The first date is more of an interview than
an event.
#6: (for men) Listen! Don't spend all your time talking
about things you already know. Your goal here is to
find out about your date.
#7: Have something to talk about - read a newspaper
or magazine of general interest. Try to find common
things you both share.
#8: Keep an open mind and don't argue. You don't have
to agree with everything your
date says, but where you differ, offer an alternative
idea rather than discounting it, and if you don't know
something ask!
#9: Remind yourself that your not nervous, you're just
excited. Calm confidence is very appealing!
#10: Have fun! That's the idea of the first date.
Got a love, relationship or man/woman question? I answer
all letters. You can write to me at dwneder@remingtonpublications.com
for answers. For more information about my book, "Being
a Man in a Woman's World", visit: www.remingtonpublications.com.
Copyright (c) 2001, Dr. Dennis W. Neder
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