Free relationship advice
Meeting That Special Someone:
You've met many people in your life. How many of them
have been your ideal mate? Probably very few. You may
have dated someone very attractive, only to find that
they don't seem so wonderful after you get to know them.
If you're going to find Mr. or Ms. Right, you're probably
going to have to go through a number of people - possibly
a large number!
Here are some ideas on how to increase your contacts
and find your partner:
#1: Decide what you want in a partner. Most people
spend more time planning their vacations than they spend
planning their lives!
#2: Be open and aware of people around you where ever
you go. You never know when you might meet someone that
fits your profile. Also, be prepared to say "hello".
#3: Don't discount any particular method of meeting
other singles. Chat rooms, personal ads, singles organizations,
classes, etc., are all good ways. You're going to need
a large number of contacts to find the few that fit
your goals.
#4: When you go out, dress! This doesn't mean that
you always need to dress like you're going clubbing
- just dress decently. Don't go to the store in sweats
with your hair in curlers, and don't go to the bookstore
in ratty shorts and a t-shirt with holes.
#5: Practice saying "hello" - to everyone.
When you're on an elevator, or passing someone in the
street. First, make eye contact and smile, and then
say "hello". This is great practice for when
it will be needed.
#6: Let your friends and family know that you're looking
to meet someone. They may know someone from work or
socially whom they think would work well as a match.
Don't be too picky - you'd be surprised how well your
friends know you!
#7: Get a hobby! By having other things you're interested
in, you become a more interesting person. As well, you'll
find many organizations that provide information on
those hobbies and might meet something through them.
#8: Be open - many people unconscientiously close themselves
off to others by averting their eyes, crossing their
arms, and turning themselves away. Be aware of your
body's posture and use it to tell others that you're
approachable.
Finally, always protect yourself. Remember that the
person you meet on-line or in a supermarket may or may
not be the person you first think they are! Be open
to new people, but don't give people your home address
until after you get to know them.
Got a love, relationship or man/woman question? I answer
all letters. You can write to me at dwneder@remingtonpublications.com
for answers. For more information about my book, "Being
a Man in a Woman's World", visit: www.remingtonpublications.com.
Copyright (c) 2001, Dr. Dennis W. Neder
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